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difference between having anxiety and being hypersensitive

empathworld:

thought I’d post this. since I was thinking about it. I don’t know if I covered it all. 

There’s a difference between having anxiety and being over sensitive. Also a difference between being an introvert and being an empath who needs to chill out. But they are similiar. They mesh together so well it’s hard to tell.

This is what psychologist and counselors have to do everyday, and well, this is what I’d taken upon myself to do with my psychology degree because empaths are real, it’s not a myth and people just don’t acknowledge it. 

They have a high correlation. Which means one causes the other, but the job is to find out which one causes which one.

Being an empath usually makes some of us introverts and have anxiety. You feel everyone and everything. It’s overpowering and then you want to be alone for a little while to de-stress and chill. But introverts do act the same way who aren’t empathetic. 

Traits of an empath:

  • Feeling the world’s suffering on a large scale and wishing you could do something to help. Ironically, this makes you less equipped to help, because you feeloverwhelmed.
  • Finding it difficult to watch the news or distressing images because you feel the pain of the person/people you’re watching –as if you’re them
  • Finding it difficult to fully be present to yourself and your own feelings when conversing with other people. This is because you’re busy exploring their aura and responses to life – not your own.
  • Shyness – empathy can make you somewhat self-conscious as you’re very aware of the effect your words have on another person and what they’re thinking and feeling in response.
  • A tendency to say yes to the requests and demands of other people – almost as a reflex; without thinking about whether you actually want to. When you’re so immersed in another person’s experience of life and what they need – how can you say no? It’s only afterwards that you realize you forgot yourself and your own needs.
  • A general tendency to put your needs last, or serve others at your own expense.
  • A liking for distance in relationships, and for solitude.  This occurs because as an empath, intimacy and closeness is your default.  But when you don’t know how to stop yourself from exploring other peoples’ auras, you need some space on your own, where you aren’t around other people.
  • Feeling an affinity with the animal kingdom.  When you’re an animal empath, you can get a feel for how other species experience life and you are able to relate to animals on a deep level.  Some people are plant empaths, so the same is possible for plants.
  • Feeling responsible for how other people feel – and going out of your way to help them to feel better (even when it doesn’t serve you.)  After all – you feel their emotions so keenly.
  • A tendency to let relationships and friendships get too heavy (and too close) – too fast.
  • A strange tendency to feel aches and pains, but only around certain people.
  • Finding yourself often in a counselling role, where people dump their emotions on you, and being very drained by it.
  • An emotional over-identification with characters in novels, films and plays. It doesn’t matter that they’re not real – you can still feel how they felt.
  • A tendency to forget to have fun and lighten up.

Traits of an introvert: 

Social Interaction

  • Has only a few close friends
  • Does more listening than talking
  • Talks to family members, but not to strangers

Social Preferences

  • Likes solitary activities, like reading, or activities with only a few people
  • Likes to spend time in own room with the door closed.
  • Watches a game or activity before joining in
  • Likes creative or imaginative play

Emotions

  • May get crabby after spending a lot of time around other people
  • Does not share feelings easily
  • Becomes deeply humiliated after making a mistake in public

Introverts like to be alone. Empaths like to be alone. But Introverts aren’t as absorbed into everything as empaths are. :) Just think about it :D

(via witchfulthinking)

Reblogged from empathworld May 18th, 2012 54 notes #empath #empathy #social anxiety #anxiety #sensitivity #oversensitivity #important

how to decode a person with an anxiety disorder

euclase:

things we are trying to do all the time:

  1. be safe

things we can’t help but do all the time:

  1. second-guess ourselves
  2. behave impulsively and reactively
  3. take everything personally
  4. worry
  5. worry
  6. worry
  7. have difficulty accepting compliments
  8. have difficulty reciprocating friendly gestures
  9. have difficulty finding the courage to respond
  10. have difficulty not being suspicious of others’ intentions
  11. make a huge deal out of the smallest thing

things you should keep in mind:

  1. we’re scared of everything
  2. pretty much all of the time
  3. it’s an actual disorder
  4. it manifests as impulsive behavior
  5. you can’t fix us with words
  6. telling us “worrying is silly” won’t make us stop worrying
  7. it’ll only make us feel silly
  8. and then we’ll worry even more
  9. “oh god, am i worrying too much? what if they call me silly again?”
  10. like that
  11. also, we wear a lot of armor
  12. cold, heavy, affection-proof armor with spikes
  13. we constructed this armor as children
  14. we’re fairly certain you will never be able to pry it apart
  15. but there is a nice person under there, we promise

things you can do for a friend with an anxiety disorder:

  1. stick around
  2. ask them if they’re comfortable in a place or situation
  3. be willing to change the place or situation if not
  4. activities that help them take their mind off of things are good!
  5. talk to them even when they might not talk back
  6. (they’re probably too afraid to say the wrong thing)
  7. try not to take their reactions (or lack thereof) personally
  8. (the way they expresses themself is distorted and bent because of their constant fear)
  9. (and they knows this)
  10. give them time to respond to you
  11. they will obsess over how they are being interpreted
  12. they will anticipate being judged
  13. it took me four hours just to type this much
  14. even though i sound casual
  15. that’s because i have an anxiety disorder

things you shouldn’t do:

  1. tell us not to worry
  2. tell us we’ll be fine
  3. mistake praise for comfort
  4. ask us if we are “getting help”
  5. force us to be social
  6. force us to do things that trigger us
  7. “face your fears” doesn’t always work
  8. because—remember—scared of everything
  9. in fact, it would be more accurate to say we are scared of the fear itself

emergency action procedure for panic attacks:

  1. be calm
  2. be patient
  3. don’t be condescending
  4. remind us that we’re not “crazy”
  5. sit with us
  6. ask us to tighten and relax our muscles one by one
  7. remind us that we are breathing
  8. engage us in a discussion (if we can talk, then we can breathe)
  9. if we are having trouble breathing, try getting us to exhale slowly
  10. or breathe through our nose
  11. or have us put our hands on our stomach to feel each breath
  12. ask us what needs to change in our environment in order for us to feel safe
  13. help us change it
  14. usually, just knowing that we have someone on our side willing to fight our scary monsters with us is enough to calm us down

if you have an anxiety disorder:

  1. it’s okay.
  2. even if you worry that it’s not okay.
  3. it’s still okay. it’s okay to be scared. it’s okay to be scared of being scared.
  4. you are not crazy. you are not a freak.
  5. i know there’s a person under all that armor.
  6. and i know you feel isolated because of it.
  7. i won’t make you take it off.
  8. but know that you are not alone.

(via feministdahmer)

April 30th, 2012 26,483 notes #anxiety #social anxiety #social anxiety disorder #personal 2

i want to start running, mostly because i miss it so much, but gyms make me nervous

running outside would be worse and we can’t afford to buy a treadmill at the moment and urewhaiufljk it’s so frustrating because i just want to run but there are so many obstacles 

the only thing i can think of is going for a run at 3 in the morning to avoid being seen

but honestly

i’m not ready to make that kind of commitment 

March 1st, 2012 2 notes #anxiety #personal 2

i had a presentation today in genocide class and i go up there when it’s my turn and start presenting

naturally, i’m freaking the fuck out, but i get about halfway through my presentation when my teacher asks me to stop and let someone else go

she pulls me aside and tells me that i was doing my presentation more like a book report rather than a book study so i’m going to have to start over on monday

it took everything i had to stand up there and not cry and now i have to do it all over again

January 20th, 2012 10 notes #anxiety #genocide and crimes against humanity #genocide #keith blogs about her day

rosalarian:

Blinders

Anxiety and depression often put blinders on us, making us unable to see anything outside of whatever makes us feel awful.

(via childhoodrivers)

Reblogged from rosalarian November 1st, 2011 1,331 notes #anxiety #depression

omg there is a halloween dance coming up for all TDSB GSAs on the 31st

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i want to go

but i don’t want to go

but i really, really want to go

but i’ve never been to a REAL dance before and it’s going to be full of attractive queers

ugh

conflicted

i probably won’t go

September 29th, 2011 3 notes #gsa #tdsb #halloween dance #anxiety